Depression is something many people ignore, mainly because it is invisible and often hidden behind fake smiles. Society tend to think that depression is simply having a bad day.
Depression has a generic list of symptoms, but what the generic lists do not do is break down the symptoms to explain how debilitating depression really can be.
Counselling and medication are not solutions or quick fixes, they are in part coping mechanisms. Talking to someone does not change you nor does medication, they assist you to temporarily change your focus allowing you to cope or function in life avoiding further escalation to suicidal thoughts and tendencies.
Depression is supposedly a chemical imbalance in the brain and the purpose of antidepressants are to fix or adjust your serotonin levels. However do chemicals in your brain control your thinking?
- What controls overthinking? What controls numbness or tingling or even a headache?
- Depression is usually diagnosed to someone who feels down or agitated or upset for 2 weeks or more over and above ‘normal’ life function.
- What is ‘normal’ life function? If from a young age you have lived with depression or anxiety, what is the norm?
- Depression can be many things, felt many ways. A depressive episode can sneak up on you quicker than your own shadow.
You can be feeling fine, have a small thought on a past situation/moment or even the present moment and wham, your mind can begin to overthink things and stay in that moment. Almost like filling the petrol in your car and instead of clicking off when it’s full, it continues to overflow running down the side of the car.
When you live with depression many things deteriorate such as self esteem, self confidence and your patience.
Your self esteem becomes self doubt because of the way you constantly feel, this leading to self confidence or lack of. You begin to doubt your abilities, your assets and your own self. Because you doubt your self and stand aside to let someone with self confidence through, you then lose patience, patience often controls our anger and agitation, this causing ‘bursts’ or anger.
When people tell you to "Snap Out Of It" or "Get Over It"
People living with depression are not 2 years old having a breakdown because they want food or a drink, as an adult, being told to "just snap out of it", "get over it", "your lazy" or "what is your problem" do not only bring on the anger feelings, it really shows a depressive person that the person in front of them has no idea what is going on, what depression feels like or how debilitating it is.
If you could "just snap out of it" do people not think that they would? or has society conditioned us that much to think that people really want to live in a depressed state of mind?
What do you ask a depressed person or what do you talk about?
First of all, people who are depressed do not want to simply come out and say "I am feeling sad" or "I am grieving over a death" or "I seen a fatal car accident" or "my marriage broke down" or any other concerns or emotional issues they are dealing with. Sometimes people do not always know they even have depression, especially when that state of mind is long term and they have become 'immune' to it.
Trust is one thing we all need, it is not given, it is earned as they say. Talking to a friend with depression or any mental illness for that matter, proving that you can be trusted with the information they tell you is very important. If they suspect that the information or "inside" information will be shared, disclosed or otherwise forwarded on, then you essentially are believed to be a spy and therefore, you will not get the opportunity to help and will only hinder the depression.
Unless the depressed person begins talking about their problems or situation, then the primary focus needs to be "small talk" finding out what they like, music, activities and otherwise talking about anything that causes bad emotions. Discussing those things and sharing your own experiences with them builds a bond and builds confidence and trust.
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No One Understands What Im Going Through? No One Cares?
Often in the moment of sadness or a depressive moment, we tell ourselves that no one understands, no one can relate, no one cares, but this is not true, there are organisations available to call any time of the day or night for a chat, unbiased and trained staff who can and will help you get through this moment.
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If you situation is critical or you require immediate assistance, please call 000